It’s Not O.K. to say SHUT UP…Unless
As a former middle grades English School Teacher, I recall one of the actions that I would most quickly reprimand my students for was having them use the words, “SHUT UP!” Whether it was to me, (and sometimes they tried it) or any of their classmates, I found this to be one of the most mean and offensive phrases one could ever utter to another. I believe that to tell someone “Shut up” is to tell them their thoughts are not valid; that they are not entitled to an opinion or that they should not be able to express their thoughts and feelings. Do you like it when someone tells you “Shut up?” I hardly believe you do. Often, the counter response to someone telling another to “Shut up” is “Make Me.” These two phrases fired back at each other, as we all know could lead to some serious confrontation.
Rude and obnoxious conversations occur on a daily basis. Whether it is the disgruntled customer who curses the cashier, the underpaid police officer who misuses his authority when addressing a teenager (or adult in some cases) or the angry husband who targets his spouse, violent and hurtful words are often thrown out like yesterday’s trash. The victims of such verbal abuse probably want nothing more than to say “SHUT UP” or in some cases “SHUT the #%#@ UP.” Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, I ask you, is “Shut Up” and appropriate response in cases like these?
In my opinion, (please don’t tell me to “shut up.”) the only time it is okay to say such stinging and venomous words is when we are dealing with the negative voices from within. “You can’t win.” “You will never be successful.” “Nobody loves you.” “You’re not good enough.” Any of these sound familiar? These intrusive and crippling sound bites should immediately be told to “SHUT UP!” They mean you no good and only serve the purpose of robbing you of your greatest achievements. To entertain these negative forces for even a moment only spawns more thoughts like these and before you know it, these thoughts become so cancerous, so infectious that its host, unless treated immediately is likely to face an unfortunate death, be it emotional, spiritual or ultimately physical.
Each of us at some point and time, have to battle our own inner demons. These negative forces of energy so often shroud us in doubt and distract us from seeing our truest potential. Whether we are seeking to start a new relationship, build a business or excel in learning a new skill, we can often hear that chilling voice saying, “You can’t do that.” But, the truth is, if we use those stinging words that we so often use toward others, and tell that voice to “Shut Up,” we will see that we can accomplish goals and dreams beyond our wildest imaginations. There is rarely an occasion when one should use the words “shut up” to address another human being, but, to those negative monsters inside our head, “Shut up” is the ONLY appropriate response, and if you really wanna get jiggy wit it, tell them “Shut the #%#@ Up, Biotch!”
There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.
―W. Clement Stone