If you were to look up the word, “Happiness” the definition rendered would be 1.) The quality or state of being happy. 2.) Good Fortune; Pleasure; Contentment; Joy. Have you ever stopped for a moment to ask yourself, “What truly puts me in a state of happiness?” What was your answer? Is it having hundreds of thousands of dollars at your disposal? Taking a trip to some exotic place? Spending quality time with family and friends? Or just a peaceful, silent state of meditation? What really makes you Happy?
For me, personally, I am most happy, when I am on stage. For those of you who are just coming to know me or my blogging style, I’m J’Da Prynce. I am an independent recording and performing artist currently touring throughout the continent of Asia. I am from the United States of America and I am one of six talented children born to Earline and Zander Johnson Sr. At the very early age of six, I discovered that I derived a tremendous amount of joy from singing and created stages often using my family members as my audience. I can remember a time when I used to gather two of my sisters together and we would play “Choir.” I was the director, of course. And, we would sing to our heart’s content sometimes for my mom and dad and other siblings, at other times just for ourselves. We did not have much money growing up, so we found ways to be creative and we did a pretty good job at entertaining ourselves on a very low to no budget, the only cost to us, was our time and focus as we would work those songs to perfection. Some years later, I find that it is still music and performance that makes me happy.
Enough about me! Now, I want to tell you about a brother that I have met on my journey overseas. His name is Yaxi Yahan. His mother is from Russia and his father is from Mongolia. I met this amazing man when I was performing in Beijing, China. One night, during one of my breaks, I walked over to him and introduced myself. Though he spoke very little English, this in no way intimidated him and he extended the kindest smile and greeting back to me. We chatted for a few minutes and exchanged numbers. A few days later, this same young man came back to the venue to watch our performance and again, we exchanged a few minutes of dialogue. Little did I know, that our initial greeting would be the beginning of one of the most meaningful and genuine relationships, I’ve ever cultivated in my life.
Over the next several months in Beijing, Yaxi and I became great friends, more accurate, we became brothers from different mothers. He vowed to me that every night, he would come and watch my show. Some of you may say, what’s the big deal about that? The big deal is, 1.) This man took time out of his schedule every day to come and show support to a guy he barely knew. 2.)We’re talking about having to take a 25 Km Drive one way in Beijing traffic, and he would do this twice a day, daily. Nightly, Yaxi would show up and greet me with a warm smile and over time a great big bear hug, and he would say to me, “Your Happy is My Happy.” This is the most selfless statement I have ever heard anyone share. That someone else’s happiness is what brings them happiness. These weren’t just words for him. In more ways than I am able to express, this man has shown that he lives by this philosophy. It was soon time for me to leave Beijing and head to my next tour destination of Seoul. And, Yaxi reminded me, “Your Happy is My Happy.” He shared that brother, “Wherever you go, I will go.” And true to his word, I remember looking up one night from the stage during a performance in Seoul, and there he was. Bright eyed, smiling, loving, Yaxi. Never has he asked me for anything! Yet, he has always given so much of himself, just so that I can feel contentment, joy, pleasure and good fortune. Whenever Yaxi is around, it’s always a good time. There’s laughter, swimming,, bowling, wake boarding, joking, good drinks and good food, especially Ramen Noodles.
What if every single one of us on this planet operated with this kind of heart and mindset as Yaxi? “Your Happy is My Happy.” What if each of us thought of another’s happiness before we thought of our own? What if we were moved to joy every single time something good happened to or for someone else? What if we spent more of our resources creating happy situations for others? What if we didn’t find the plethora of violent videos that have been surfacing all over Facebook as entertainment, and the complete opposite of happiness? What if we vowed to use more of our time and personal energies to create happiness for others? As a performing artist, I often battle with my own vanity. Yes, that vain little creature that lives inside of me loves to receive applause and accolades at the end of each song, (not that this is a bad thing) but because of people like Yaxi Yahan, slowly but surely I am beginning to get it. It’s not about the applause. It’s not about being rich and famous. (Or broke and famous for that matter). It is about using the music or whatever our personal talents and gifts may be to bring happiness and joy to others. I am thankful for the ability to use my gifts in such a way that will make “Your Happy Is My Happy.” I am re-committing myself to this! Will you join me? Please share this blog if you will!
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